To break up, an otherwise genuinely joyous, flow...
As, every day from dawn (my my the dawn chorus this morning upin the woods,is so real...as it has been forever) always the same, I happen to be, good for me... constant. And always wishing to live, well. Which is only 'simply' because...
And it is genuinely depressing. In fact is the 'end' - of this era in this land..
And i do not do hyperbole.
I was first introduced properly to that term, by a woman i had known for 15 years, in summer 2020. She trusted me, fully. As i was the person who a decade before had got her 3 young and infant children back to her own care from social services unjust forced adoption. I had at times visited her in the whacky ward...and was the only one among many (in my own case, almost always unpaid) professionals who .. 'helped' her, get out of the place she should not have been forced into, and rightly be allowed to parent... one of my best ever successes...
Except over the years - when the wrongly prescribed anti psychotics had worked out of her system and she became obviously at last a more fully esteemed person, coherent, mostly...she would blame her past fuck ups on the very occasional use of narcotics..
when it was obvious to even a 3 year old it was dad...and mum... the latter i met a few times...and could feel her, blame him for...i don't really know what, but money was also deep at the root..
Anyway ff 2020... no one assiting the quite unpleasant woman killing herself with loadsa drugs and booze...at the place i was offered free land and nags... i had though she was gone after the 2019 attempt to get her to professional rehab care...
failed... but that unkept land,those free unloved nags...and the local girls wanting to use them...paradise regained, except for that one bugger in the woodpile.. yet another druggy in a region the theme park agents pretend is some paradise and no such people are extant
Anyway...London woman, 3 kids... bit of dads cash to pay her expenses, even if she pretends she hates him.... a MUTUAL BENEFIT arrangement i propose... when i can get her on the dog n bone, she so so so busy bossing people about online as a senior NA 'mentor' guide..elder...
"may ex junkies end up addicted to people pleasing..."
"interesting,yes i have seen that.... but the term does bring notions more into focus...i normally regale at all these silly lifecoachy terms... which do as much harm in fact as lifecoaching in the grander scheme of things....we had all this with De Bono decades ago...and he didnt save humanity... .maybe that one is useful as shortcut language...for..."
two months later, her endless promises she was taking up free b+b for a month..in a rural paradise her children could skip and dance in..and horseride ,the oldest old enough ..in return for guiding, or just saying some wise words to not yet ex junky...so so adamantly spoken of (someone i had gone to court with many times...many days in each others company...no passing ship!) as a wonderful benefit for her and her children... i had for myself the best story of what a people pleaser was... even if she got likes and admiration for counselling others on 'people pleasing'...
I am well attuned to these behaviours. This is not fun. These behaviours have destroyed all hope of REAL environmental protection - because true allies are required (over 15 years this has been the plague - 10 years ago we spent a day with a few oldtimer regional Green Party elders who admitted just this)
And i have seen among many many dozens i liaise with on green, community social work - proper versions no badge required, just help when no one else will, and things for kids... a now almost complete circle into people pleasing - really simple very obvious total people pleasing... behaviours as much as my ex friend's junky behaviour...
It is not good. And i know one thing, it takes many years to face up to and evolve through.... and if 99% ..at least 90% seem to have it bad ..(and if they don't know they have it, they know may of their so called people do...even if thats too hard on their fragile souls to openly admit)
And so many not knowing they have it (including several of my own main friends - absolutely incontrovertibly so), the rest failing to admit its everywhere, I the absurd fool who always has hope... can see no hope... here...until sadly (as a pacifist who would not even wish a case of the shits on Adolf and Eva... ) something actually genuinely extreme happens to just one day, maybe, get people to figure who they REALLY are..within the context of some functional (non transactional) interdependence on the rest of the people...just like them.
You know i am right, and if you don't..please say so, as you are the ones who will waste even more of "my precious time" ..to pack and sell everything, and get the hell out from this loony bin...for ever.
room for a couple in the back....
(sad thing is a recently did liaise with one of them at length who stated as for so many years i felt "as soon as i crossed the channel...i would always just bodily be different..relaxed, all tension gone...a completely different person.." oh will bitchy goddesses at it again... as she destroyed by the drugs, too....despite the endless lies.. she even had me fooled for a while she meant her words on super healthy living and satisfied only with nature... which for 99.9% means drugs.. psycho much-rooms, 'herb'... so sad thye dont know..years of a clear head so so much more creative, and even transcendental at times, in the real 'zone''...facebook really really did fuck you all over bigtime...spreading these so sad people's people pleasing piles of horseshit...horseshit wouldbe better for you than so many 'cures' and potions and motions...and as i care bout people - or did, i have studied quite carefully the practitioners (from the inside!) , and their 'reach'...and even if they will never admit it y my their depleting customer spend as there are more of THEM 'practitioners' and less spend...as 'crises' bite...i adore the thought of their now, only darkthoughts: how to kill the goddess next door.. unquesionably the facebook and other overt 'likes' has massively increased.... tip:if in that world, of conartists ultra crowdfund ripoff goddesses such as the dark sisters, one Ertha Love... i seen em all... wow you gonna have to ramp up your money grabbing operation bigtime..production values and fake crowdfunding slickness has got so slick its hard to tell they were once drug addled party lasses from some shitty bleak bad part of a bad city.... respect to said Ms Love, though in that they [sisters[] left an honest comment on their Tube begging bowl, a chap stating "yet another rip off con artist"... it is the ultimate - almost like falling in love with a tyrant from the call centre... when the tyrants - i have far far worse examples of true fraud using pics of children with molten laptops in Portugal - this is not new.... its kindof ultimately surrealist... the queens of fraudulent crowdfunding to build 30 grand temples..basically to them... in the sun...gently riff in public in the begging bowl with the rare wiseman who calls out their fraud... in the past they would have [still do almost by deafult] block..block block...... i think pretending to debate is in fact worse...oh well...not my Albion..i did real stuff to prevent this stuff...wisely, and kindly, at great personal cost....but i won, as i really do nowadays find the nett result - failure - so damn funny.... in fact i would takeup with the queen goddess of them just so i could giggle as i drifted off to sleep with it...pure wonderful true comedy it doesnt even know it is high priestess..of )
i do not use the term referring to the lethal disease of 'people pleasing' lightly... and unless it has not plagued my own life terribly, despite brilliant radar...and i have extremely well documented cases of at least 50 unquestionable instances.... the last few weeks a dozen promising they would help the poor lost pretty one... they promised...
Good job i retain 'proofs'... most carefully. Not that any of them are worth 'naming'...ever...so shabby
